My New Life

This time around i have a very good and genuine reason for not blogging for a long time.Its simply because my life has been very busy in the last couple of weeks.So i recently just moved to the UK yayyy am happy cos am achieving a long awaited dream,which was to do my masters,which am currently doing right now.I have no complains though there are challenges.Its a whole new world for me,its different when your just visiting.When your actually living here,its a whole new ball game. To those who have left their countries and come to live here i don't know how you did it but i cut cap for you.From the crazy weather condition to having to leave family,friends and a very familiar environment your use to.I have family here thank God for that.I get to see my mum every weekend and am grateful to God for that but i miss my other family and friends back home.

Like i said am not complaining.Am truly grateful to God for the experience and the opportunity.Am yet to make friends though.The niaja people for here can form sha i never see anything.Just the other day i was going back to my room (i stay on campus) from class and heard these bois speaking igbo (niaja dialet) and the moment i passed them omo my guys just begin dey knack phonetics,ha u wanna try.who doesn't want to be janded,lol. And my classmates hahahahaha thats a different ball game they are really nice people but the language barrier e get as e be o.I don't want to discriminate,its not in my nature but *in my best britico accent* i need to polish my english more not unpolish it abeg.

Do i even want to begin with having to wake up at 6am in the morning on a rainy day to get ready for a 9am class,mehnnnn thats kinda hard o.when your blanket is just wrapping itself around you at that point,its hard to let go but you still have to.

But so far so good sha am loving the experience.

By the way if your a nigerian and your reading this and you live in the UK pls let me know where i can find an african hair shop.

xoxo
Chantel

18 Guide post to a personal journey

Today am taking a step forward to achieve the things i want to achieve and i need something to remind me to stay focused.So this is for me and all those who are taking a journey forward in life.

1. It's ok to struggle,it's ok to wear and own your imperfections,and to fall flat on your face.As long as you keep reaching out for support and maintaining the courage to put one foot in front of the other.

2. Actions speak louder than words

3. Learn to say NO as much as you say YES. Less is more,replace- 'could i do more'? for 'would i like to do more'?

4. Mistakes are powerful gifts.Don't leave the lessons within them concealed.Gently unwrap a mistake to gain wisdom within its exterior.

5. Ask WHY before you ask HOW. Intention is required to create your compass.

6. Action deflates fear always

7. Recycle. Don't fix whats not broken.REuse whats worked for you.

8. Trust your intuition. Resist second guessing.

9. 'Success'  can not be defined by others or even put into the hands of others for evaluation.If left unguarded your success could be taken away at any moment.If you equate success with your intrinsic worth (even subconsciously) then you would be left broken apart.

10. Be more proactive than less reactive to better align your reality with your vision

11. Attempting to avoid negative events and situation proves an exercise in futility.Negative things happen to everyone.However adversity can often provide an opportunity to strengthen character,deepen emotional fortitude and increase your over all sense of self and selfworth.

12. Time and energy are not equal.Improve their interaction by learning their unique characteristics.

13. Don't get stuck within the details. Whisper these words to yourself - 

 She could never go back and make some of the details pretty. All she could do was move forward and make the whole beautiful. (can't remember who said it)

14.Remember to breath

15. By acknowledging when you don't know the answers and shedding light on your vulnerability,you are creating space for your authentic self to live wholeheartedly and courageously.We learn the most about ourselves from the moment we let down our guard and admit ' i don't have all the answers,i am uncertain but it's ok' how can i transform this from one of self doubt to one of self-compassion?'

16. When the journey gets tough remember the words of Margaret Thatcher ' you may have to fight the battle more than once to win it'

17. Gratitude is one of the greatest gifts you can give to another human being

18. Greatness is  never achieved. It is something you mut intrinstically bestow upon yourself.

And that's a wrap.I think this should have been a letter to myself.lol hope it helps others like me out there.


xoxo
Chantel

I Am Not My Hair

My big chop on the 19th of August

See the front of my hair? so bad that's why i cut it

Loving my TWA (tiny winny afro)

Rocking a bantu knot out

5 months natural hair

7 months natural and till rocking it

xoxo

PARANOID

You know ever since this boko haram thing started i have become completely paranoid lol,can you even begin to blame me? With all the drama going on in this country everyone is a suspect even you reading this blog *yep u* ok calm down,am joking but seriously don't you just wonder sometimes.So am walking down the street each time and i see a hausa man or muslim looking person and am thinking to myself,hope he doesn't have a bomb on him.I literally cross the road to the other side.Am even scared of the educated ones,cos truly even with all their education and exposure and they can still allow themselves to be brainwashed,imagine what the illiterates are thinking? Can you blame me really for thinking all this nonsense,with all the bombings going on in this country,it's hard  not to be suspicious. God help us/me,hopefully i'll get over this paranoia.




I know how committed muslims are to their religion so am wondering what part of their religion tells them it's ok to kill innocent people,because of some pathetic idea they brought up themselves.


Today Kano has become a state of slutter,it's been one crime after another. Funny thing is others are now committing crimes and calling it ' boko haram' shameful. I wonder what our precious Mr President is planning on doing about all this. It's amazing how ever since he came into power it's been one issue after another. What has he done really? Even his own state looks dead. I haven't heard of any good thing that he has done not unless i haven't been following the news,someone please enlighten me if i have missed anything.All i hear in the news about this country is bad news,more crimes everyday. My question is what are our so-called leaders doing?






xoxo